Dealing with Family Stress During the Holidays Part 2

This is your Professional Sista, Marsha C Mclean with a Mental Health Moment! 

For many individuals, family get-togethers need preparation and strategies.  Christmas is one of the most difficult days of the year.  This day means putting up a strong front to see family without rehashing past hurts.  Here are some methods to assist you with those family gatherings. 

1.       Don’t take the bait:  Don’t let anyone suck you into a heated debate or argument.  You are responsible for how you handle uncomfortable situations.  People will make negative comments, ask rude questions and behave in a way to get you to react.  SAY NO TO THE BAIT!!! 

2.       Observe:  Pay attention to your surroundings and use your observing ego.  Be silent and just observe the family dynamics; this will assist you with gauging the family’s mood.  This also helps you determine if you need to put a little distance to protect yourself from negative situations. 

3.        Count to 10:  Let’s be honest, family members will irritate you this Holiday Season.  Be prepared to count first and then speak (I also suggest having a stress ball in your pocket). 

4.       You need a time out:  When you are with family for more than four hours, you may need a time out.  Go for a walk or find a quiet room to distress a little. 

5.       The reason for the season: Let’s be real for a moment.  Many of us don’t have “perfect” families. The goal is to manage family encounters in a healthy and mature manner for yourself.  You can survive without too much family drama.  The reason for the season is to survive your family and still be grateful for them! 

Finally, keep your expectations reasonable and doable.  Celebrate that you still have time for another dinner, hug, laughs and memories.  Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas. 

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